I think if you asked just about any person they would tell you one of the most important things when it comes to a partner is honesty— because well no one likes a liar.
But how about when it comes to your relationship with yourself? Is honesty still high on the list?
It should be.
Recently I had an AH HA moment and realized I haven’t been very honest with myself. I am so guilty of pleasing and doing what I think others expect of me and want for my life. Instead of putting myself first and doing what I want. I finally figured that out at 28, and I only wish I had sooner.
Society expects me to be married by now, with a husband and children, but guess what? That’s not how life turned out for me, and I am fine with that. Finally.
Yes, I hope to be married by the time I’m 30… BUT after I have accomplished some of the goals I have set out for myself. For instance, becoming a published author has my focus right now, and it pretty much dominates my life.
My life has been anything but cookie cutter so why start now?
When I would look at my peers and where they are at this stage in life, I would find myself longing for what they have. But then I had to ask myself why did I want those things? Were they things that I genuinely wanted for myself or did I only want them because that’s what everyone else my age had and was doing?
I realized it was the latter.
Don’t shoot me when I say this, but most of the time when I see my Facebook newsfeed filled with babies… I feel nothing. I don’t get that feeling most women talk about when they see cute little babies. I don’t long for that. And I think it was hard for me to accept that because I didn’t feel “normal”. Women are supposed to want babies right? Aren’t we supposed to get that yearning in the pit of our stomachs when we hold these adorable little creatures?
Some of us aren’t wired that way. And I am one of those women. I say all that to say be honest with yourself. Be honest about what you want. Be honest about your intentions in life.
AND OWN IT.
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